Guess who was restless and could not sleep?
Guess who left her HOH mansion and came to Ozo’s room so early in the morning during lights out, sat up in bed and watched Ozo sleep, for a good long while?
Guess who got on Ozo’s bed this morning and apologized for her outburst last night?
I’m sorry about last night, I hope I didnt get you into trouble – Nengi Says.
Guess who’s still on Ozo’s bed as we speak till this very moment? She hasnt left his side.
If your guess was Nengi, then you guessed right.
First of all, it’s time y’all trashed that she doesn’t like him, she doesn’t want him, he is choking her, he is always following her, he is crowding her narrative..
Like I told someone on my thread yesterday, with this 2, the zuzu-ing is mutual.
When Ozo is not following Nengi, Nengi is either looking for him, following him or getting mad at him for not being with her.
It’s such a false narrative that it has become glaringly obsolete. Completely dead in the water. Trash that narrative..
Secondly, It’s time y’all learnt to stop defending and supporting nonsense simply because you support a fave..
Everyone knows that I’m a big time supporter of these 2 people, be it together and/or individually, but when I see nonsense, I do not hesitate to call it out.
You need to understand that the qualities we defend and promote in this world, determine the human behavioural patterns that become largely acceptable.
When next a person mistreats you, you need to ask yourself what behaviours you have endorsed, justified and accepted based on bias in the past.
Nengi is exhibiting an emotional brokenness.
A neediness and attention seeking disorder that is toxic.
If a man were a Nengi, I would never date him because he is obviously emotionally abusive.
I have observed that Nengi doesn’t enjoy a relationship that is happy and peaceful for a long time.
She needs the drama…
She needs to mess shit up ever so often, just so that someone will beg….
She needs this peculiar attention…
This is not your regular childish attention seeking…
This is an abusive attention seeking ..
You like him..
You want him..
You are emotional about him…
And you know how he feels about you…
But push him away…
Reject him consistently..
Toy with his emotions…
Belittle his feelings..
Put him down…
Make him beg…
Make him go on his knees and beg…
Crush him till he begs…
And just when he is about had enough and he turns to leave, draw him back into your space more deeply and shower him with love..
How does she like to say it: You will crawl. Ozo! you will crawl.
She likes to push a man to & see him at the edge of the cliff by her own doing, and have him beg desperately to be let off and then like his saviour, she accepts and loves him.
It’s a cycle..
There is a power, control and pleasure that seeing Ozo in a beggarly position gives her….
She craves it….
She needs it ….
That is when she feels loved the most..
It’s when she feels needed…
It’s when she feels wanted the most…
It’s when she feels beautiful, in control and powerful..
I repeat, it is emotionally abusive…
And it is a function of a brokenness…
She is trying to correct a wrong…
She is paying back an offense….
She is addressing a hurt, abandonment and helplessness
She will use every man to punish that particular Man or group of Men, whoever he or they may be.
And Ozo is the perfect specimen for this abuse because he is not emotionally secure.
He is emotionally dependent. Emotionally weak. A slave to his emotions. He lacks the will and hasn’t got the inbuilt configuration to exercise emotional control.
Therefore he is a fertile ground for this abuse.
If he were differently configured he could have helped her (since he has chosen to love her), by ensuring that he starves her of his attention when she gets this way and then sets her straight in very clear terms, when she comes back to her senses.
He could have established boundaries with her and made her experience certain repercussions, whenever she indulges and displays this unhealthy behaviour in order to wean her off it.
There are people like Nengi…
Some of you ladies, have encountered them..
You know those ladies who constantly pick a fight over any and everything the moment your friendship is going smoothly…
It’s like they think: it’s too smooth, so lets ruffle it up a bit.
The making mountains out of molehills all of a sudden for nothing sake.
The getting unduly emotional and sentimentalising irrelevant scenarios that have no bearing on nothing…
The tears..the emotional blackmail..the making you feel like you are a bad, mean and uncaring friend…
Until you begin to plead and apologize for a wrong you have no idea about, just for peace to reign and because you love your friend and don’t want to see them hurt.
Yea…its the same problem and some of you are labouring in those friendships.
Its emotional abuse ..
Its emotional manipulation…
Its toxic
And it arises from a deep brokenness…
Nengi has apologised for her outburst: they say
But it will happen again and again and again, whether herself and Ozo are in a friendship, situationship, or relationship..
Because that brokenness, like a deity, needs to be served constantly.
