Keep this in mind again. If I am in a romantic relationship with an undergraduate, I would 100% take care of the financial cost of keeping the relationship going. I will not expect her to contribute any money in whatsoever manner at all.
I do not expect my undergraduate girlfriend, who survives on stipends and monthly allowance from her family, also to use that money and fund a relationship. Not at all. Let her use it to buy books, food, and other essential things she needs in school while I take care of other financial matters to oil our relationship.
This approach would be different if I am dating an unemployed lady. My first task would be to help her find a job or source of income in areas she can be productive.
I will not expect her to suggest ways or places to chill and chop life. That would be an anathema! I expect her to work with me to sort out her pressing life issues and get her something to do before we can make other plans to chop life and spend money.
Lastly, if I was dating a lady who is fully employed or engaged in activities that bring income to her, I fully expect a certain level of financial commitment to our romantic relationship. I will state this clearly and tell her that for this relationship to work, we need to be committed in all ramifications, financially being one of them.
Do not date someone not earning and expect them not to burden you with their financial needs. In fact, as you’re courting someone who isn’t earning, you should understand they have needs that need to be met financially. Knowing this will help you figure out if you can handle their demands and how to approach such people with your romantic proposal.
In all you do, ensure whoever you’re dealing with is on the same page with you to avoid, “But did I ask you to sacrifice anything or make those expenditures for me?”
