Gen Z young men on Twitter today openly admitted to paying for sex and patronising prostitutes.
I did not believe that in my lifetime men could come forward to admit that they are paying for sex, but today they did; they admitted that they do and even share receipts on Twitter, as the one attached below.
Because of that conversation, Olosho has been trending since yesterday on Twitter.
It was a cringeworthy moment for me as a man, I must admit, but on second thought, it is a full-circle moment and a moment to reflect on how we got here as a society.
I’m a millennial, and so my generation of men was comfortable with chesting billing from women in our lives whom we liked so we could have sex.
My generation of men was brought to believe that once you like a woman, her bills are your responsibility.
You pay rent, furnish her house, send her to school, and put her on a monthly allowance, all in the name of love.
Many men of my generation who are not married are doing this and not complaining.
Even millennial men who are married did this same rite of honour for the women in their lives before they got married.
But these younger Gen Z young men did not inherit our patience or threshold of tolerance.
They don’t understand why they should put the women in their lives on a monthly allowance when they could spend less to have the same sex, which is the end game of all the spending and billing.
The fact that they grew up with the advent of the red pill on social media is not helping matters, and this alone is radicalising them to stop spending on women.
I think this is the reason that is pushing men in this demographic into sleeping with different Olosho, because for them, it is far cheaper.
Don’t get me wrong; prostitution and sleeping with Olosho have always been with us; it did not start today, but many younger men in their numbers are doing this in greater numbers than any other time in our history as a people, and this is why it is worrying.
It has not always been like this.
For them, paying for sex is better and gives better returns than going through the mechanics of a relationship because you spend more in relationships.
I’m not trying to rationalise what these young men are doing; it is wrong and foolishness to put your life on the firing line because you want to have sex.
They are at the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases as well.
At the same time, we need to have an honest conversation as a people.
Relationships in this part of the world have turned into a full-blown transaction, and I think this is what is pushing these young men into the waiting arms of Oloshos.
“Oh, you like me! Please buy a wig for me or press money to my account.” This is how to prove that you like me, is the mindset of many Nigerian women today.
A mindset like this is what drives these young men to go for women on the street because it is cheaper for them to pay 30k for sex than buy a wig of 200k for the same end goal.
Before now, relationships were meant for two people who liked each other to understand other aspects of each other’s lives and to see whether they were compatible to spend the rest of their lives together.
But here
We have turned it into a full-blown commercial transaction.
If you want to visit Babe, you go buy flowers & gifts.
If a babe wants to visit you, you go pay for Uber and then give ‘thanks for coming.’.
These Gen Z young men have seen the commercialised love that we, the older generation, practiced and are still practicing, and in their minds, these men are suffering, and we don’t want this version of love.
Let me go and pay an Os,as they called it on Twitter. It is cheaper for me abeg.
Again, I think this is what is driving these men who patronise women on the street and why we need to have this honest conversation
Because this abhorrent behaviour can’t continue.
It can’t.
