Falling in love is easy. The difficult part is remaining in love, and committing to your partner forever.
Here is 10 reason why people fall out of love
1. Lack of communication.
When you start a new relationship there is an abundance of sharing. Couples talk about anything and everything as they get to know each other. They fall in love with those parts that relate to one another. Unfortunately, as time goes on, communication withers. In the comfort of knowing your partner, there is the discomfort of not wanting to ask again, or say the same thing again, as not to upset them. Communication shuts down because there is no effective way to sit and discuss issues in a healthy manner.
2. Feeling invisible.
After long periods of time, couples begin to take each other for granted. There is a feeling of merely existing in the relationship. Making love becomes the thing of the past. You stop touching and complimenting each other. You stop looking at one another. You begin to act like roommates rather than lovers. Love grows cold. It’s not a good idea to blame your partner for all the relationship problems. Sometimes we need distance in order to recognize how important our partner really is and retrace what made us sparkle in the first place. But it takes work.
When the “in love” part vanishes, the truth of who we are starts to play. We begin to feed off each others’ insecurities. Jealousy starts to play a role in the relationship. Because we feel invisible, we begin to notice that our partner starts to behave differently with others. It’s not that he or she is cheating.
4. Boredom sets in.
the relationship author of Romantic Date Ideas, says: “Over time, people can change — or more often, they become who they really are. Someone who loved his steady business career may suddenly realize he always wanted to be a stand-up comedian and throw caution to the wind to chase his dreams. The kind of change that leads to love lost is always about a buried desire to be someone that’s repressed inside.
5. Attraction is gone.
What kills attraction? The inability to have fun. You fall in a rut and can’t get out of it. You stop going out on date nights, or doing special things for your significant other. Most times it has nothing to do with physical appearance but the things that go unsaid or undone.
6. Holding on to grudges.
Nothing is worst that holding on to past resentments and grudges. The quote “forgive and forget” does not play well when we are still reclaiming hurtful situations, bringing them up constantly, and throwing them out there. It’s hard to move on when you are still keeping tabs on what your partner has done.
Cheating and other secrets destroy relationships. And it’s not just infidelity that destroys trust, it’s the things that are purposely withheld. It could be that your partner is keeping another bank account, or doing drugs, or has actually lost his/her job.
8. No one wants to compromise.
There is a point in every relationship that egos begin to dictate. You stop caring about the other person’s feelings and you want what you want, when you want it. Even through arguments, and discussions no one wants to compromise. This begins to show the lack of respect and love. You cannot love another without the give and take. You cannot get back to peace without compromising
9. The fairy tale is over.
You got married believing that this person was your prince or your princess. You believed that you had found your happily-ever-after. Unfortunately, what they don’t share in those children stories is that after the love comes the payments on the castle, the tending to the land, and all the other problems that arrived.
10. The love wasn’t really love.
Sometimes we mistake lust for love. What we thought was passion and true acceptance was the effects of lust. If a relationship started out from an affair, or on rebound, you are more likely to mistake the desires and wants as true love. Love is timeless. Its not to say that relationships don’t go through rough stages.