Nigerian Men And Marriage

MEN! MEN! MEN!

An igbo proverb says, “anu gba ajo oso, agbaya ajo egbe ”

Do I blame wife’s of chronic cheating men sometimes? not at all. You people cheat and forget your brains in the waste bin. Don’t preach and tell me, if a woman isn’t meeting her standards in your home, you will cheat because she caused it, you must be a loose person to reason that way. So you feel because Africa is crafted with this mentality of polygamy, you think you can change women like wrappers when they err? Odiegwu, where you as a man can’t coordinate your family and tame your woman, you have failed as a family man,a father and a husband . Take that to the bank. So you think when you marry a fresh side chick, you are now stable and more relaxed? You feel your wife isn’t meeting up to the house, bedroom activities and that gave you the reason to replace her with a mistress?

What did you do to help out when you saw-she was slacking in her duties?

Have you ever sat her down to appreciate her for keeping you both home together before she started losing it?

Have you ever sat down to access yourself, to know if you have ever wronged her and never apologized to her ?

Have you ever asked her in a calm manner, what is it that is troubling her mind ?

Have you ever taken her out for shopping, wooed her the second time, told her how much you love her and will always do even when things are falling apart amongst you two.

How well do you love things about your woman, do you neglect her families most of the time?

Do you put heads along with her, to solve most of the problems at home or to you her opinion doesn’t count?

How important is your wife to your life, family and all.

A husband who does 80% of what I listed wouldn’t be far from his home and cheating won’t even be in his priority list. What we give way in our life, is what will take the space of things very important to us.

Some men so look down on their woman that they feel her opinion aren’t needed at all. They feel she can’t reason,they feel she isn’t that learned, they appreciate their secretary’s opinion more than the woman they are married to. Ask her about what her thoughts are, bring her into what you do, carry her along so she won’t be lonely. You saw something in her before you asked her to marry you. So why treat her like a dummy and choose other people’s opinion over hers. If she isn’t giving you what you need, that shouldn’t make you lock her out entirely when things of decision making comes to play. Mbanu

A woman who you trusted your life in her hands shouldn’t be played with. She has your life in her palms, so she deserves a standing ovation in your home every blessed day. Do people play with what they put inside their mouths? I don’t think so, because if you do, you are crippling your system and when you expose them to bacterias and virus, they will breakdown your system antibodies and bring you down.

That is how your wife is she is your body, when you play with her, she gets angry, spits fire and the whole building collapses. Not that couples shouldn’t quarrel, I didn’t say that, how well do you as a man handle such scenarios when they arise? Do you shut her up, ridicule her, tell her how you picked her up from the gutters, trash her parents in front of your family members, tell her she means nothing to you, that she is in your house because of the children and nothing more. Do you speak to your woman as if she is a piece of furniture? Do you expect such a person you treat with so much disdain to give you peace in your home? Odiegwu!

For men that work in offices, during weekends are when you family needs you the most, do you take to visiting friends instead of sharing wonderful weekend moments with your wife and kids. . Help her out in the little way you can, bath the kids if you have toddlers, help in the kitchen, even if you don’t know what to do, just sit around and give her in helping hand in bringing the utensils and arrangements.

I came across a man, who always love to attend weddings without his wife. I asked his wife one day I met her at the church, why don’t you come to occasions with your husband? she said he didn’t like taking her along. That she feels he isn’t always comfortable around her whenever they are on occasion. So she loves him to have his way always. I was like seriously??? I said to her, anytime you both are invited for a social gathering, once he leaves, dress your best and attend the wedding but pretend your husband didn’t attend the occasion at all. Go have fun. It took her a whole time, before she took my advise seriously. She started dressing to kill. She came back told me that when he saw her for the first time, he couldn’t believe she can wear a tube gown to a wedding. He wasn’t comfortable seeing people greet his wife in public. “He sent her a message in the venue, where you knew you were coming for this wedding, why did you wear a cloth as if you are the bride wedding, don’t you know you are a married woman with children ?” He became uncomfortable and left before the occasion ended. What was his anger about if I may ask? A woman who you told to her face she is good for nothing? What is his problem then when people out there talk to his good for nothing wife? This man now take his wife to occasions and guard his woman from other hawks out there. Ndi ara !!

Can you see how some reason like naked cowards ? She is good for just your home alone, you want her to serve as a statue. Kept at a place, not to be removed, except when she wants to go to the kitchen, bedroom and children school. But not fit for fun and occasions? I say Amadioha fall on you ! Ndi uchu!

You prefer to go flex with a side chick, who is presentable because she has not dropped one or two children? because her tummy is still flat and untouched. Let her drop what your wife has dropped let’s see how the game goes. Ana eme !

You feel her body doesn’t appeal to you anymore because of child birth, if you know you will feel that way, why don’t you leave getting her pregnant so she will remain your evergreen queen, your goddess of mba mmiri till you both age ? Onye uchu! Your like your son, daughter, you show them love, but despise the body that gave birth to them? The gods are really preparing nails in form of food for you.

I am not here to judge the side chicks at all because if married men are very principled and didn’t make a move , ladies will be for single men alone . Sometimes I feel for single guys because all their girlfriends now see them as people who can’t meet up to their material needs 不不不不不不不不不 Odiegwu ooooo.

Some men have gone so petty to the extent of using blackmailing words on their wives , ” you are no more the virtuous woman the Bible speak of, you are failing in your duties and all that” you see your life? A blackmailer quoting bible, are you also a virtuous man? Oya read bible too, Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Ephesians 5:25. Kai, banana fall on you

Why won’t she fly you condoms when you demand for sex? why won’t she sex starve you? why won’t she ask for new HIV test, in a hospital of her choice because she doesn’t want to loose her life due to your shady ways. Who wants to die prematurely because of ones carelessness?

You people think it’s only a woman that can hold her family together, then what is the meaning of the term “couple”. It’s (a man and a woman) What role have you played in your marriage? what efforts have you made? Is the whole work left for a woman to do? She is not a machine,she is human with flaws, don’t forget that.

Some men, immediately they marry and bring her home, they feel their job has ended, so the woman is to do it all. Who is there to give her the attention, love, care, shoulder to lay on when her head is filled? He feels a woman is made to bear labour pain, so she can handle it all, you lie, I said you lie. We are not even strong in the inside as you all think.

When we are not getting the attention, we cry 唐唐唐唐唐

When we are not getting the love, we cry 唐唐唐唐唐

When we are not getting the praises, we cry 唐唐唐唐

When we are not being listened to, we cry 唐唐唐唐

We cry, we complain and when we are not attended to,we learn to live with the situation and build a wall of Defence , that is when things start taking a new shape and turn and the men start complaining she is no more a virtuous woman. I ask you, where were you when she was crying for love, affection, attention and all? Why play dump to her plights? What again do you want from a woman who you don’t give attention to? To remain loyal like a slave to your charms, you lie.

Some women have lost hopes in their marriages because their dreams have been shattered, she has a dream she has ever longed to bring to reality, why don’t you help her achieve that dream? sit her down and help her with a drawing plan on how to do that. Some men feel once they let their wives go into office work and businesses she won’t be loyal again to the family and won’t respect them again. Trash those dirty mentality, it’s only a foolish woman that does such. Help her achieve her dreams, let her do what she wants to do in terms of work. Hear her with Opinions and contribute yours too to her. When she sees you are part of her dreams, she will be happy to make you proud.

Most men aren’t smart enough to realize that, the higher enough elevate your woman, the less available she is for other men. Make her your everything in front of everyone, every time.

When last did you send her appreciative messages, unexpected dinner invitations. Unexpected gifts. Messages like ?

In the walk of fame of my life, you are the only star. Thank you sweetheart.

A good wife makes a good husband. Thanks for fulfill my life sweetheart.

My dear wife, thanks for being the only support I have ever had and I will ever be needing.

Wife is a beauty of home, Wife is a queen of home, Thank you My dear I love you Most.

You came into my life and totally changed my world. I have lost total control of myself. I am a changed person. My heart does not belong any more to me. Its given away to you. I am deeply and madly in love with you.

You are the electricity that keeps me charged, sunshine that keeps me awake and food that keeps alive. Thanks.

Hi beautiful! I just want you to know how thankful I am of having you in my life. You are a perfect wife. Thank you!

The woman who is a perfect homemaker, lovely mother, successful manager and the best wife is not a myth, its YOU. Thanks for everything.

To my wife, Thank you for being you.

You have never made me feel like your Mr. Right. You have always made me feel like your Mr. Perfect. Thanks honey.

Most husbands get bogged down by marriage with chains, but I got a flight with a pair of wings. Thank you darling.

Your love gives me the power to stay, to reach my every way, your love is like oxygen in my life, thanks to you my beautiful wife, I love you!
I really am blessed to get a wife like you had proved to me that you are the best for me. Thank you so much dear.

Thanks for having answers to all my questions, remedies to all my ailments and solutions to all my problems. I love you.

A woman like you could have got any man she wanted. But a man like me could only dream of getting a woman like you. Thanks for making my dreams come true.

How many times have you caressed her with test messages or is your position in her life to make her feel stupid for marrying you?

Everyone has a limit, and when you reach that limit, they explode! Don’t forget the way you feel you can have many mistress as you bloody care and your wife won’t say jack, is the way that woman you neglect can get attention too from men like you as well. So because she is meant to be a virtuous woman, she should swallow your inhuman act and read just bible and sob away her sorrows?

Quit the comparison. We hate comparing us to other women out there. When you compare your wife to your friends own, that is where the problem starts. Why are you not like Nkechi, James wife and all that ? Let me ask you, are you James , do you do what James does to his wife ? When you compare your wife to another woman out there, that is when you start seeing irrelevant flaws that doesn’t make sense. Oginni bu nkea?

It’s only a worthless man, that goes fetching water from another mans house whose roof is leaking, while he practically haven’t patched his own house roof that has been leaking for ages. Foolishness at its peak.

A man who tells people that his wife is the reason he cheats has nothing to justify his wayward nature . The people you told might agree with you in your face, but when you turn around, they will gnash their teeth at your back because you don’t make sense to them at all.

Cheating is a choice, your choice and nobody’s, so let that woman be. If you feel she isn’t giving you what you expected after playing your good role as a husband and father, either go for separation or divorce to have your sanity back. Nobody deserves to be in prison. My take.

Enjoy your day please!Long post alert!

MEN! MEN! MEN!

An igbo proverb says, “anu gba ajo oso, agbaya ajo egbe ”

Do I blame wife’s of chronic cheating men sometimes? not at all. You people cheat and forget your brains in the waste bin. Don’t preach and tell me, if a woman isn’t meeting her standards in your home, you will cheat because she caused it, you must be a loose person to reason that way. So you feel because Africa is crafted with this mentality of polygamy, you think you can change women like wrappers when they err? Odiegwu, where you as a man can’t coordinate your family and tame your woman, you have failed as a family man,a father and a husband . Take that to the bank. So you think when you marry a fresh side chick, you are now stable and more relaxed? You feel your wife isn’t meeting up to the house, bedroom activities and that gave you the reason to replace her with a mistress?

What did you do to help out when you saw-she was slacking in her duties?

Have you ever sat her down to appreciate her for keeping you both home together before she started losing it?

Have you ever sat down to access yourself, to know if you have ever wronged her and never apologized to her ?

Have you ever asked her in a calm manner, what is it that is troubling her mind ?

Have you ever taken her out for shopping, wooed her the second time, told her how much you love her and will always do even when things are falling apart amongst you two.

How well do you love things about your woman, do you neglect her families most of the time?

Do you put heads along with her, to solve most of the problems at home or to you her opinion doesn’t count?

How important is your wife to your life, family and all.

A husband who does 80% of what I listed wouldn’t be far from his home and cheating won’t even be in his priority list. What we give way in our life, is what will take the space of things very important to us.

Some men so look down on their woman that they feel her opinion aren’t needed at all. They feel she can’t reason,they feel she isn’t that learned, they appreciate their secretary’s opinion more than the woman they are married to. Ask her about what her thoughts are, bring her into what you do, carry her along so she won’t be lonely. You saw something in her before you asked her to marry you. So why treat her like a dummy and choose other people’s opinion over hers. If she isn’t giving you what you need, that shouldn’t make you lock her out entirely when things of decision making comes to play. Mbanu

A woman who you trusted your life in her hands shouldn’t be played with. She has your life in her palms, so she deserves a standing ovation in your home every blessed day. Do people play with what they put inside their mouths? I don’t think so, because if you do, you are crippling your system and when you expose them to bacterias and virus, they will breakdown your system antibodies and bring you down.

That is how your wife is she is your body, when you play with her, she gets angry, spits fire and the whole building collapses. Not that couples shouldn’t quarrel, I didn’t say that, how well do you as a man handle such scenarios when they arise? Do you shut her up, ridicule her, tell her how you picked her up from the gutters, trash her parents in front of your family members, tell her she means nothing to you, that she is in your house because of the children and nothing more. Do you speak to your woman as if she is a piece of furniture? Do you expect such a person you treat with so much disdain to give you peace in your home? Odiegwu!

For men that work in offices, during weekends are when you family needs you the most, do you take to visiting friends instead of sharing wonderful weekend moments with your wife and kids. . Help her out in the little way you can, bath the kids if you have toddlers, help in the kitchen, even if you don’t know what to do, just sit around and give her in helping hand in bringing the utensils and arrangements.

I came across a man, who always love to attend weddings without his wife. I asked his wife one day I met her at the church, why don’t you come to occasions with your husband? she said he didn’t like taking her along. That she feels he isn’t always comfortable around her whenever they are on occasion. So she loves him to have his way always. I was like seriously??? I said to her, anytime you both are invited for a social gathering, once he leaves, dress your best and attend the wedding but pretend your husband didn’t attend the occasion at all. Go have fun. It took her a whole time, before she took my advise seriously. She started dressing to kill. She came back told me that when he saw her for the first time, he couldn’t believe she can wear a tube gown to a wedding. He wasn’t comfortable seeing people greet his wife in public. “He sent her a message in the venue, where you knew you were coming for this wedding, why did you wear a cloth as if you are the bride wedding, don’t you know you are a married woman with children ?” He became uncomfortable and left before the occasion ended. What was his anger about if I may ask? A woman who you told to her face she is good for nothing? What is his problem then when people out there talk to his good for nothing wife? This man now take his wife to occasions and guard his woman from other hawks out there. Ndi ara !!

Can you see how some reason like naked cowards ? She is good for just your home alone, you want her to serve as a statue. Kept at a place, not to be removed, except when she wants to go to the kitchen, bedroom and children school. But not fit for fun and occasions? I say Amadioha fall on you ! Ndi uchu!

You prefer to go flex with a side chick, who is presentable because she has not dropped one or two children? because her tummy is still flat and untouched. Let her drop what your wife has dropped let’s see how the game goes. Ana eme !

You feel her body doesn’t appeal to you anymore because of child birth, if you know you will feel that way, why don’t you leave getting her pregnant so she will remain your evergreen queen, your goddess of mba mmiri till you both age ? Onye uchu! Your like your son, daughter, you show them love, but despise the body that gave birth to them? The gods are really preparing nails in form of food for you.

I am not here to judge the side chicks at all because if married men are very principled and didn’t make a move , ladies will be for single men alone . Sometimes I feel for single guys because all their girlfriends now see them as people who can’t meet up to their material needs 不不不不不不不不不 Odiegwu ooooo.

Some men have gone so petty to the extent of using blackmailing words on their wives , ” you are no more the virtuous woman the Bible speak of, you are failing in your duties and all that” you see your life? A blackmailer quoting bible, are you also a virtuous man? Oya read bible too, Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Ephesians 5:25. Kai, banana fall on you

Why won’t she fly you condoms when you demand for sex? why won’t she sex starve you? why won’t she ask for new HIV test, in a hospital of her choice because she doesn’t want to loose her life due to your shady ways. Who wants to die prematurely because of ones carelessness?

You people think it’s only a woman that can hold her family together, then what is the meaning of the term “couple”. It’s (a man and a woman) What role have you played in your marriage? what efforts have you made? Is the whole work left for a woman to do? She is not a machine,she is human with flaws, don’t forget that.

Some men, immediately they marry and bring her home, they feel their job has ended, so the woman is to do it all. Who is there to give her the attention, love, care, shoulder to lay on when her head is filled? He feels a woman is made to bear labour pain, so she can handle it all, you lie, I said you lie. We are not even strong in the inside as you all think.

When we are not getting the attention, we cry 唐唐唐唐唐

When we are not getting the love, we cry 唐唐唐唐唐

When we are not getting the praises, we cry 唐唐唐唐

When we are not being listened to, we cry 唐唐唐唐

We cry, we complain and when we are not attended to,we learn to live with the situation and build a wall of Defence , that is when things start taking a new shape and turn and the men start complaining she is no more a virtuous woman. I ask you, where were you when she was crying for love, affection, attention and all? Why play dump to her plights? What again do you want from a woman who you don’t give attention to? To remain loyal like a slave to your charms, you lie.

Some women have lost hopes in their marriages because their dreams have been shattered, she has a dream she has ever longed to bring to reality, why don’t you help her achieve that dream? sit her down and help her with a drawing plan on how to do that. Some men feel once they let their wives go into office work and businesses she won’t be loyal again to the family and won’t respect them again. Trash those dirty mentality, it’s only a foolish woman that does such. Help her achieve her dreams, let her do what she wants to do in terms of work. Hear her with Opinions and contribute yours too to her. When she sees you are part of her dreams, she will be happy to make you proud.

Most men aren’t smart enough to realize that, the higher enough elevate your woman, the less available she is for other men. Make her your everything in front of everyone, every time.

When last did you send her appreciative messages, unexpected dinner invitations. Unexpected gifts. Messages like ?

In the walk of fame of my life, you are the only star. Thank you sweetheart.

A good wife makes a good husband. Thanks for fulfill my life sweetheart.

My dear wife, thanks for being the only support I have ever had and I will ever be needing.

Wife is a beauty of home, Wife is a queen of home, Thank you My dear I love you Most.

You came into my life and totally changed my world. I have lost total control of myself. I am a changed person. My heart does not belong any more to me. Its given away to you. I am deeply and madly in love with you.

You are the electricity that keeps me charged, sunshine that keeps me awake and food that keeps alive. Thanks.

Hi beautiful! I just want you to know how thankful I am of having you in my life. You are a perfect wife. Thank you!

The woman who is a perfect homemaker, lovely mother, successful manager and the best wife is not a myth, its YOU. Thanks for everything.

To my wife, Thank you for being you.

You have never made me feel like your Mr. Right. You have always made me feel like your Mr. Perfect. Thanks honey.

Most husbands get bogged down by marriage with chains, but I got a flight with a pair of wings. Thank you darling.

Your love gives me the power to stay, to reach my every way, your love is like oxygen in my life, thanks to you my beautiful wife, I love you!
I really am blessed to get a wife like you had proved to me that you are the best for me. Thank you so much dear.

Thanks for having answers to all my questions, remedies to all my ailments and solutions to all my problems. I love you.

A woman like you could have got any man she wanted. But a man like me could only dream of getting a woman like you. Thanks for making my dreams come true.

How many times have you caressed her with test messages or is your position in her life to make her feel stupid for marrying you?

Everyone has a limit, and when you reach that limit, they explode! Don’t forget the way you feel you can have many mistress as you bloody care and your wife won’t say jack, is the way that woman you neglect can get attention too from men like you as well. So because she is meant to be a virtuous woman, she should swallow your inhuman act and read just bible and sob away her sorrows?

Quit the comparison. We hate comparing us to other women out there. When you compare your wife to your friends own, that is where the problem starts. Why are you not like Nkechi, James wife and all that ? Let me ask you, are you James , do you do what James does to his wife ? When you compare your wife to another woman out there, that is when you start seeing irrelevant flaws that doesn’t make sense. Oginni bu nkea?

It’s only a worthless man, that goes fetching water from another mans house whose roof is leaking, while he practically haven’t patched his own house roof that has been leaking for ages. Foolishness at its peak.

A man who tells people that his wife is the reason he cheats has nothing to justify his wayward nature . The people you told might agree with you in your face, but when you turn around, they will gnash their teeth at your back because you don’t make sense to them at all.

Cheating is a choice, your choice and nobody’s, so let that woman be. If you feel she isn’t giving you what you expected after playing your good role as a husband and father, either go for separation or divorce to have your sanity back. Nobody deserves to be in prison. My take.

Enjoy your day please!

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